First realize that anger is an emotion that we all experience, it is natural.

It is a secondary emotion to 1 of 3 things:
1. HURTS
2. FRUSTRATIONS
3. FEARS
If we implode the source of our anger it will fester.
So we need to deal with our anger...
1. DONT DENY IT.
2. DELAY IT, Stop and cool down
(You will hurt others if you don't delay it)
3. DEFINE IT... (is it from hurt, frustration, or fear?)
 Why are you really angry?
REFLECT INSTEAD OF REACT.
4. DEFUSE IT....PUT IT TO REST, HANDLE IT IN A GOD HONORING MANNER.
5. DELIVER IT TO GOD.

ANGER requires a response, its a choice...
Pain or Peace?
The hurt at the core is the place where the healing arrives.

Patience is better than strength. Controlling your temper is better than capturing a city.
Proverbs 16:32

Suggestion, get in a structured group at church where you are with safe people who can help you identify with those emotions.